In my experience, and in the stories I've heard from friends who also suffer from having a Cluster-B type in their lives, these psychos just love to trade around their addictions. Sometimes it's an addiction to harassing their non-psycho ex. That's called "TALK TO MEEEEEEE" syndrome. Sometimes is a drug problem, sometimes it's alcohol, sometimes it's all three....and then sometimes, they like to trade whatever was "plaguing" them for religion. It's a miracle! In between making their ex's life miserable, manipulating the kids, and filing frivolous crap in court, your psycho ex found Jesus! THE Jesus! And He speaks through them. And to them. And now that they have Him, who can be against them, right? Oh...but He doesn't speak to you. No. You're not worthy. All of a sudden, the past transgressions they've committed are left to the wayside, the psycho ex "realizes" that he/she is a child of God, saved by the Lord Jesus Christ, and that their sins are now forgiven. So anything bad that happens, happens TO them, not because of them, and therefore everyone else around them who isn't down with their new dogma must be a heathen infested by the Debbil. Gotta love religion.
When Stella and Guy were married, she wasn't very religious. Guy, himself is not a very religious person as it is, and while Stella's family always went to church (separate churches - her mom is Catholic and her dad is Lutheran, and she went to the Lutheran church), she didn't seem to really get into religion until she also discovered adultery, and how to commit it. Funny how that happens.
People mostly turn to God when they're facing some kind of hardship - stress, death, heartache, financial troubles, job loss, etc. Hey, that might not sound pretty but it's true. Yes, there are plenty of people out there who are religious and who turn to God every day to express gratitude or ask for help. But for those who aren't always down with the G-O-D, it's the downturns that really make them look for help from a higher power. Sometimes it takes the realization of an enormity of a problem for someone to look to the enormity of the universe to seek answers and solutions. Why do you think so many death row, or long-time, inmates discover religion?
Stella is that way. She cheated on Guy about a year and a half after Johnny was born. She flew to another state, met up with a guy she'd met through her job (she was an enrollment counselor for online programs at a college, and he was a student), and proceeded to shit all over her marriage vows with him. Then she discovered Jesus! THE Jesus! She tried to cover up the affair, but wasn't very smart about it. When Guy found out about it, let's just say the marriage was over. They had a fight, she called the cops, he left willingly and stayed at a friend's place. Then they tried to patch things up and he moved back in, then it didn't work out and one night, after too many Bud Lights on both of their parts, they had another fight that ended with Stella staging the house to look like she'd been attacked and the cops coming AGAIN. This time, Guy knew that if he left the house, there was no guarantee he'd see the kids again any time soon, and he knew Stella would be taking most of his things and moving. See...she'd done this before. Back before Johnny was born. Back before she and Guy were married. Calling the cops, playing the victim, getting a restraining order, then moving with the kid(s) and the contents of the house was her M.O. Unfortunately, Guy never saw what was coming until it was too late, his stuff was gone, and he was filing in court to try and get visitation set up. So this last time, the police escorted him away unwillingly, and even though all charges against him were dropped by the cops (because they knew EXACTLY what Stella was trying to do, and according to their report, they would have arrested her as well for being drunken and disorderly, but someone had to stay with the kids), that doesn't prevent Stella from hanging that arrest over Guy's head every chance she gets.
After Stella "freed" herself from Guy's "evil ways" she got extremely preachy. She now quotes Bible verses (of course, out of context) all of the time. Praises Jesus every chance she gets. In the same breath she'll call Guy a Deadbeat Dad, drug addict, and loser, and then tell him that God knows the truth, and wish him a blessed day. Thank the Lord and Baby Jesus above that Stella no longer has custody. Due to her own "devilish ways" Stella lost custody almost two years ago by now. She had Skeezer, her loser boyfriend (who has since been evicted by the home thanks to court order obtained by Guy after Skeezer beat Stella in front of the kids and had the cops called on him) move in, terrorize the kids, terrorize her, and she didn't think that was a big deal. Sadly, she wanted to be "loved" and have a companion more than she wanted to be a good mother. So now, Stella is 9 months behind on her child support, hasn't helped Guy pay for Marsha's braces since the very first payment, hasn't reimbursed us for the fuel it takes to get the kids to her for visits in 9 months, let the medical insurance she was court-ordered to carry lapse forcing Guy to get his own policy, and she regularly puts her need for time at church above her "right" to talk to the kids. See, the orders state that each parent shall make the children available to the other, by phone between 7 and 8pm every night. Well, see, Stella looks at that timeline and the right for nightly phone contact as more of a suggestion, really, at least when the kids are with her. When the kids are with us, she damn well be getting that phone call! Except she expects the kids to call her first, most of the time. And she'll answer if she has the time. After all, she is THE ALMIGHTY MOTHER. NO ONE CAN BE AS IMPORTANT TO THE CHILDREN AS SHE. According to Stella, "Having a Father is important, but only a Mother can know exactly what the children can need, and only I am capable of caring for them the way they need to be cared for." What the fuck ever.
Anyone else find it funny that God is often thought of as a man, but these crazy bitches with golden uteri believe that mothers are more important to the well-being of "their" children? Because the children are always just theirs. No one else's. Just theirs.
The hypocrisy displayed by these "God-fearing" Cluster-B types is astounding. God help us.
